Acts of Kindness and Giving

The Mindset of Giving: Why Acts of Kindness Matter in the Workplace and Beyond

Acts of kindness and giving are more than fleeting feel-good moments—they’re a mindset that transforms how we see ourselves and the world. Without a doubt, giving of ourselves reveals our deep connection to others, a thread that weaves through our personal lives and workplaces, making them wonderful places to be. I can honestly say I’m at my happiest when I’ve done something nice for someone, whether it’s a friend, a coworker, or a complete stranger. Don’t just take my word for it—try it yourself. The next time an opportunity arises, step up, perform an act of kindness, and feel the shift in your spirit.

Picture this: You’re walking through town and spot a parking ticket on someone’s windshield. In a whimsical moment, you imagine yanking it off, ripping it to shreds, and tossing it away. Why should they pay that fine? Instantly, you’d feel a mischievous thrill—though, of course, I’m kidding about breaking the law! The point is, even the thought of helping someone can spark joy.

The Joy of Selfless Acts of Kindness and Giving

Joking aside, the true beauty of acts of kindness and giving lies in their selflessness. When you give without expecting anything in return, the reward is a pure, powerful sense of joy. It’s a feeling so uplifting that it often brings Louis Armstrong’s iconic lyrics to my mind: “And I say to myself, what a wonderful world.” These moments remind us that small, intentional gestures can create ripples of positivity far beyond what we see.

Science backs this up, too. Studies show that acts of kindness release oxytocin and serotonin—hormones tied to happiness and well-being—not just in the recipient, but in the giver as well. It’s a biological bonus to an already meaningful act. But you don’t need a lab to prove it; the proof is in the experience.

A Maui Memory: Acts of Kindness in Action

A few years back, I found myself dining alone at a charming restaurant in a Maui hotel. The ambiance was warm, the food exquisite, but what caught my attention was a middle-aged couple a few tables away. They were lost in each other—laughing softly, sharing glances, completely engaged. I overheard their conversation with the waiter and learned they were honeymooners. As they held hands to give thanks for their meal and clinked glasses in a quiet toast, their affection moved me deeply.

Inspired, I decided to act. As I finished my meal, I called the waiter over and asked to cover their bill anonymously. I charged it to my room, added a generous tip for him, and handed him a note to pass along when they left: “One could tell at first glance that you belong together. I wish you peace and joy.” I didn’t think much of it beyond wanting to brighten their evening.

A Beautiful Surprise

The next morning, a note slipped under my door stopped me in my tracks. It was from the waiter:

“Dear Mr. Rizzo,
Your gesture last night was wonderful, but you need to know its true impact. When I told the newlyweds someone paid for their dinner, they were shocked. When they read your note, they teared up. They explained they’re facing challenges at home—family, including kids from past marriages, disapprove of their union. Instead of a tense wedding, they eloped to Maui. During their toast, they’d asked for a sign they’d made the right choice. You, Mr. Rizzo, were that sign—their ‘messenger of hope.’ They asked me to thank you if I ever saw you again: ‘Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!’”

A New Yorker like me, a “messenger of hope?” I’d been called worse, but never anything so profound. Later, while walking our dogs, I shared this with my wife, joking I’d aim for sainthood next. She smirked, “Okay, Saint Steven, clean up the dog poop and take out the garbage.” Her humor always keeps me grounded.

Everyday Opportunities for Acts of Kindness and Giving

That Maui moment crystallized something for me: We all have countless chances to perform acts of kindness and giving, becoming messengers of hope in big and small ways. These spontaneous gestures flow from our shared humanity, a reminder that we’re all linked, all dependent on each other as we navigate life. Whether it’s at work, at a gathering of friends, the local post office or anywhere else – it’s your higher self nudging you toward what truly matters. And here’s the secret: When you give, you’re giving to yourself, too. It’s a spark of hope in a world that can feel heavy.

Honoring Heroes: A Dallas Airport Story

In 1991, I was at a Dallas airport gate, heading back to New York, when I struck up a conversation with three Marines fresh from the Gulf War. They were young, weary, but proud. The gate agent approached, apologetic—she’d tried to upgrade them to first class, but no seats were left. I had a first-class ticket, and so did two other passengers nearby. Trading legroom for their smiles was an easy choice.

When we gave up our seats, their faces lit up with gratitude—wide eyes, quiet thanks. But the real payoff came later. As we deplaned in coach, those three Marines stood at attention, saluting us. That image still chokes me up. Acts of kindness and giving don’t need to be extravagant—just heartfelt.

Little Tokens, Big Rewards

Another way I practice acts of kindness and giving is by carrying extra copies of my books. Whether it’s a cashier having a rough day or a waiter going above and beyond, I’ll hand one over as a small gift. The emails and thank-you notes I get in return—sometimes weeks or months later—remind me why I do this. One reader wrote, “Your book came at the perfect time. I’d forgotten kindness could feel this good.” It’s a cycle of positivity that keeps me going.

The Ripple Effect of Compassionate Giving

Acts of kindness and giving ripple outward, touching family, friends, coworkers, and strangers alike. You might not always see the result—like with the newlyweds or Marines—but you’re making a difference. What you give from your heart boomerangs back, often in unexpected ways. Love and compassion live inside you, even when life hides them. Let them out, and your happiness will soar.

For example, perhaps take time to help a lost tourist navigate the city, even if it means missing your own train in the process. You might just find a handwritten thank-you note in your bag with a gift card slipped inside. You might not have expected it, but that small act could fuel your kindness streak for weeks.

Make Acts of Kindness and Giving a Habit

Turn giving into a daily habit, in your personal and professional life. It shifts your attitude profoundly. Feeling down or stressed? Look around—an opportunity will appear. Maybe it’s holding a door, sharing a smile, or tipping extra. It could be a pat on the back and a word of thanks to your employee. Seize it, and feel the lift.

In my speaking career, I’ve seen this work wonders. Whether it was after a keynote where I gave a signed book to someone who looked like they could use a smile, or chatted up someone who looked like they needed just a few encouraging words. Sometimes months later, I’d get an email that shared how that kind act ended up creating ripples in their life.

Simple Ideas for Acts of Kindness and Giving

Here are practical, low-effort ways to brighten someone’s day:

• Compliment a stranger’s smile or style.
• Praise a coworker or clerk—better yet, tell their manager.
• Text a friend you’ve lost touch with, saying you miss them.
• Buy coffee for the person behind you in line.
• Let someone with a few items cut ahead at the store.
• Offer to run an errand for a busy neighbor.
• Leave a big tip for service workers during holidays.
• Write a company praising their product (and enjoy the perks!).
• Tell a child they’re special and watch them beam.
• Listen—really listen—to someone who needs to vent.
• Share a favorite recipe with a neighbor, maybe even a sample of the dish.

Small acts keep the kindness flowing.

Overcoming Barriers to Giving

Sometimes, we hesitate. We’re busy, shy, or think our gesture won’t matter. We often find ourselves there—rushing through a day, head down, missing chances. But then you have a grocery store moment: Letting a harried mom with a crying toddler go ahead of you took 30 seconds, yet her relief was palpable: “You have no idea how much this helps.” Barriers are excuses; kindness is a choice. Start small—a smile, a nod—and build from there. You’ll find the rhythm.

Common Sense Success Strategy

Practice acts of kindness and giving daily. The reward—a deeper, lasting happiness—is priceless. Make it routine, and watch your world become more wonderful, one gesture at a time. Imagine you pay for an elderly man’s groceries when he comes up short at the register. His shaky, “God bless you,” would stay with you all day. That’s the magic—simple, shared joy.

About Steve Rizzo: The Mindset Adjuster, Steve is a personal development expert, attitude keynote speaker, former comedian, and best-selling author. A Hall of Fame Speaker Inductee—among fewer than 200 worldwide since 1977—he’s dedicated to unlocking your happiest self.