The Key to Success Is Your Definition of It
From very early on in our lives we are trained to believe that unless we own expensive property, flashy cars and are traveling to exotic locations every summer break then we aren’t truly living.
It is in this deluded reality that we continue clamor our way to the top only to find success with no heart to enjoy it.
We’ve all heard the clichéd saying that money can’t buy us happiness. Don’t worry, I won’t hop on to the bandwagon here. But I just want you to recognize the extent to which money can define your success. Do you think humanitarian workers, artists, teachers and comedians get paid millions and billions to do what they do even though these are the same people who are making our lives worth living every single day?
There have actually been countless studies conducted to investigate the relation between wealth and happiness. From the decades of research, we haven’t once concluded that material wealth leads to lifelong prosperity.
So what really is success? In my years of experience with stand-up and motivational speaking, I know that you will find success wherever you attach value.
“It really doesn’t matter how much money you have, or how famous you are, or how many goals you’ve achieved. It makes no difference how big your house is or what industry accolades you’ve racked up in your career. The entire world can view your life as the ultimate success story, but the bottom line is this: if you are not happy, you are not successful!”
In today’s blog, we’re going to redefine success and what it means to be truly happy.
True wealth lies in your health
Food, exercise and positive relationships are key indicators of health. Imagine you got the promotion you really wanted or bought the house of your dreams. What good is it if you don’t have someone to share your happiness with? Does it matter if you’ve landed a high-paying job if you can’t find time for yourself and are going hungry or sleepless many days in a week?
Stop saying “should”
The world is constantly telling us how we should look, behave, think and feel. Women get ridiculed if they’re not thin, and those that are thin are considered too skinny. Men get told they’re not tall enough or strong enough. You’re always too little or too much for someone. Tune out the armchair intellectuals and let your wishes take precedence. Learn to put yourself first.
“Focus on hope, gratitude and seeing the good during adverse times, and you will discover a brighter day regardless of what is happening to you.”
In my book Motivate This! I talk in detail about how it’s easy to sit and complain about what’s wrong in our lives, but it takes a major shift in perspective to appreciate our privilege. Make gratitude your starting point. You can do this simply by recapping your day before bed and making a list of things you’re grateful for.
There’s a step-by-step guide on how to bring about this positive shift in thought, so if you’re ever feeling lost, my book can serve as a useful tool to help you through the tough times.
Remember that success is not a destination. You’ve got to learn to enjoy the process.
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