5 Things to Keep You Grounded in the Hardest Times
Sometimes the hardest times fall on us and we’re left wondering what we did to deserve it; in truth, nobody knows. You can be a saint, a sinner or a mix of the two like most of us are, and it can still be confusing to understand why you’re going through whatever it is you’re experiencing.
Other times, there could be nothing in particular that triggers your despair. It’s not always easy to explain or talk to people around you. On the outside, everything seems to be going just the way it should.
Here’s a secret though: no matter how lonely you feel, you are not alone.
It can make all the difference in the world to know this simple truth. It doesn’t invalidate how you feel to know that others are in similar situations, but it does help to know you’re not the only person in the world who feels the way you do.
This simple truth is often enough to help us get through the darkest days and hardest times. In all my years as a corporate motivational speaker, I’ve met people with incredible stories of struggle and how they found their way through it to be where they are now.
It’s never a linear path for any of us. We fall. We get up. We walk ahead, crash again. It’s a cycle that’s difficult to break out of, which is why it’s important to remember these five important truths to help you see the light of day after even the darkest night:
- Acknowledge how you feel.We’re often taught that any display of emotion is a sign of weakness. That’s far from the truth. Emotions are a part of being human, and wanting to express them is also a normal desire. In fact, suppressing them can be toxic and detrimental to your mental health.
- Find a healthy outlet.A healthy and productive way to channel those emotions and feelings—whether it’s sadness, anger, frustration or despair—is invaluable. Talk about it, take an art class or go for a run. Don’t hold it in.
- This one’s big and kind of a tough onebecause it requires you to be honest with yourself: is what you’re feeling truly that devastating or does it just feel like it? When you’ve had time to think things through, you’ll ideally have a clearer idea of what’s really causing your problems.
- Make a plan of action.Where do you go from here? Only up, really. Think about what your options are; be realistic. If it’s a financial crisis, there’s not a lot you can do overnight, but if it’s more personal, you could start with changing a habit or behavior. It’s all about what’s doable and what will help.
- Accept the situation.Accepting that things are not always going to turn out how you feel is half the battle. Sometimes, making peace with the situation is enough to help you move on from it.
It’s all about perspective at the end of the day.
Whether you’re an individual or an organization, it can help to have an outside voice reminding you that things will be okay.
Steve is a motivational speaker for the corporate world and a member of the Speaker Hall of Fame. He conducts motivational keynote presentations to help businesspeople and salespeople reach their goals. He uses his leadership skills, wit and expertise to inspire and motivate audiences all over the world to become better versions of themselves.
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