How to Learn to Accept Praise and Feedback with Grace
You pitch an idea during a meeting, and your manager gives you a thumbs-up. There’s awkward silence as you try to thank him or her.
It’s not that you don’t appreciate the compliment. It’s more like you don’t know how to take it.
Praise and feedback have never been your thing. Every once in a while, when your manager compliments your work, you’re not sure how to respond.
Working in a competitive industry, it’s natural for everyone to want to make it to the top. However, receiving praise and feedback with grace has become a universal challenge.
Here’s what you can do to express your gratitude:
Say “Thank You”
A common misconception people have is that you need to respond by complimenting them. Simply saying “thank you” is enough.
It shows you’re grateful for the feedback they’ve provided. Saying something along the lines of “Thank you, I appreciate the feedback” will also help you establish a better relationship with your team.
Share the Credit
If the compliment is regarding team effort, then make sure to credit your teammates as well. If you are the team leader, highlighting your team’s efforts will also help them know you appreciate them.
When your team feels valued and appreciated, they’ll be driven to work harder.
If you’re at a corporate event and you’re celebrating your team’s victory, make sure to give a speech at the end. Keep it short and simple. Thank everyone for being a part of the team and for their efforts.
This way, you’re sharing the credit.
Don’t Undermine the Compliment
Even if the compliment isn’t a “big deal” to you, never say it isn’t. Instead, say “thank you” and let the person know that you appreciate their feedback.
Follow Appropriate Etiquette
When receiving an award, make sure to use your left hand. This will free up your right hand so you can shake the other person’s hand.
Also make sure to smile and stand straight when receiving an award. Avoid crossing your arms because this will make you look defensive or disinterested. Make sure to maintain eye contact so that the person knows you’re listening to what they’re saying. It will also help you appear more confident.
Steve Rizzo is a member of the Speaker Hall of Fame and one of America’s most popular leadership, business keynote and motivational speakers. He delivers professional advice mixed with a healthy dose of humor.