Perishing Your People Pleasing Nature

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”

We tend to obsess over what others think of us.

Should we wear red to work or curl our hair? What will people think? Often, our lives revolve around what people think. If we work a certain way, will we able to make a lasting impression?

In reality, people seldom think of us. They’re often so busy they don’t notice the things we worry about.

Unfortunately, this also means we’re vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Have you ever had someone ask you for a favor when you were in the middle of an important task? Did you find yourself saying yes because you wanted to impress them?

The problem is that, as people pleasers, we have a hard time saying no. This often sets us back and stops us from accomplishing our own goals. It’s not easy saying no, but with a few steps, you can get there:

Place Yourself Above Others

Remember that for some people it’s not about you no matter how much you do for them. Some people just can’t be pleased. Therefore, focus on yourself. Set your priorities straight and focus on your goals first.

Is what they’re asking for compromising your goals? Then it’s time to say no.

Speak Out If You Need To

Never settle for anything less than what you deserve. If anyone is pressuring you to do something for them without giving anything in return, tell them no. Remember that if you don’t stand up for yourself, others will trample all over you. Communicate your requirements and openly discuss what you will and will not compromise on.

Remind Yourself That Feedback Is Subjective

Feedback is essential. It helps us grow in a professional environment. However, remember that just because your boss or colleagues did not like your work does not mean someone else won’t.

Perhaps you don’t like your own work but maybe your manager will. It’s important to keep this in mind if you want to climb the ladder of success.

Steve Rizzo is a keynote motivational speaker for the corporate sector. He has worked with thousands of people in the corporate industry, and through his expertise and leadership skills, he has helped them realize their true potential.

If you are looking for a professional keynote speaker for hire, visit his website or call 724.540.5092 for booking information. Check out his speaking programs to learn more about his approach and presentations.

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