You Are Responsible for Your Success & Happiness
I know how easy it is to play the victim when times are tough and it seems that your world has run out of saviors. It’s easy to blame outside circumstances for interfering with your plans and goals. There are a host of convenient scapegoats that are all too easy to give a role in your inner dialogue.
It’s easy to blame the weather, the economy, your spouse, your job, your boss, the government, nature, your zipper, or even God (God forbid) for your life not going the exact way you want. Sometimes it’s very difficult to take responsibility for your success and happiness, yet that is exactly what you have to do.
When things aren’t going your way and everything seems to be falling apart around you, try to refrain from complaining. Negative self-talk only makes matters worse, and in reality is a real beat-down for the people around you. Instead, look for something good that might come of your circumstances. Sometimes you have to push yourself to see the bright side. Don’t make this too difficult on yourself.
This is not brain surgery, but more like a brain adjustment. Just remember, that what you think is what you get. If you can’t see the bright side, then step away from the situation for a while and focus your attention on something that will lift you up, like your children, or your dog or cat.
Another wise choice would be to get involved in some kind of activity that makes you feel good, such as walking or exercising, taking time for a funny movie or just sitting where the scenery is nice. The goal is simply to get back to feeling good and go from there.
Every minute that you allow yourself to lapse into a negative state, the longer you keep yourself from the quality of life that you desire. Methodically shift your thoughts to the things that you appreciate and little by little your negativity will dwindle. Be consistent with this and you will feel the difference as you continue to reject negative thoughts and gradually replace them with a new empowering way of thinking. You will begin to respond to challenging situations from a position of faith, rather than fear, and expect good things instead of bad.
Steve Rizzo is the Attitude Adjuster. You can’t attend one of his keynote speeches, seminars, or read his books and leave with the same attitude. He’s a personal development expert, motivational business speaker, corporate-comedian and best-selling author. It’s no surprise that Steve is also a Hall Of Fame Speaker Inductee. An honor bestowed upon on fewer than 200 speakers worldwide since 1977.
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