Our Inner Conflicts: Part 2

In part 1, we learned how our lives become easier when we view our challenges and annoyances not as burdens that bring us down, but as opportunities to evolve. Here is where humor can be a big difference maker.

One time, Gina and I were running late for an important dinner engagement with a corporate client and I couldn’t find my glasses. I tore the entire house apart looking for them. The more I looked, the more aggravated I became, throwing items around and stalking around the house like a mad man. I noticed Gina was sitting in the living room chair shaking her head with a smirk on her face. Finally, I said, “Why don’t you help me look instead of just sitting there?” She asked, “You want me to help?”

Miraculously controlling my temper I said, “Yes, if you don’t mind!”
“Okay she said. “I’ll help. Why don’t you check on your face?’

Of course I had been wearing them the whole time! I couldn’t believe it. At that instant, I found myself in the middle of two conflicting emotions. I could feel my bad mood escalating. A part of me was angry at Gina for letting me search the entire house for my glasses when she knew we were going to be late for our dinner appointment. This could have easily turned into an argument that would have set the tone for the rest of the evening. Something inside of me reminded me what the consequences would be if I held onto the anger.

When I looked at Gina who was trying with all her might to refrain form laughing, I decided to go with the positive emotion and laughed too. I looked at Gina and said,
“Oh yeah, right where I left them. You’re never going to let me live this one down are you?” As we were leaving, Gina noticed I was jiggling the keys in my hand.

“Now, she said, “If you can only find the car keys we might make it in time for dessert!”
We laughed all the way to the restaurant as we recalled some of the more ridiculous things I had done in the past. Laughter put us both in a relaxed, positive mood, which set the tone for an enjoyable and very successful evening.

It’s amazing the power we derive from stepping outside of our emotions of the moment and give ourselves permission to make a shift and view them from a humorous perspective. Why not have fun while you learn the lessons that life is trying to teach you?

In part 3 you will learn step be step how your Humor Being can help you learn the lessons that life is trying to teach you.

  1. My wife and I sooo relate to this..even throwing things around..thanks for being so transparent..these thouhts you give are are soo helpful…we viewd your talk on our Melaleuca web site but needed more of your great stuff .I constantly deal with negative self talk which has greatly minimized my acheiving.But I have also had that joyful humor being inside but until now didn’t realize how important it is for everyday living..THANKYOU STEVE….for this web site

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